October 2, 2020

Focusing On the Good

Today is our son's birthday. He is 34. We haven't heard a word from him since July 11. We haven't been particularly close for years and twice before I have been shut out of his life and that of his family. This marks the first time he has shut his dad out. He hasn't even told us why he has chosen to cut us out of his life, but it's not difficult to figure out that it is because we don't share his political and social beliefs. Me and our daughter, we are pretty much over it. There is a sadness (especially where the grandchildren are concerned), but honestly, there is also some sense of relief. My husband, though, he's hurting.

I could wallow in my loss today, but it won't do any good. My conscience is clear. I have not responded in kind, nor will I ever. If he comes back around, my son will be welcomed. I sent him a card expressing our love and hope that he is happy and well. No gift was included, however, as I will not reward bad behavior and disrespect. I have put him in God's hands and pray that one day he will open his heart to truth and love.

So I am focusing on the good in life. Today I get to babysit the younger grands again. We are going to bake Halloween cookies while Mom goes to a doctor's appointment. I stayed with them yesterday while Mom got a mammogram. We had macaroni and cheese for lunch.

These two precious children are a balm to my heart. I cannot imagine life without them.

Oh, on a not so good note...when my husband got home from work yesterday and got out of his truck he noticed the paint all around the top of the door was scratched and the metal was full of little dents. Someone obviously tried to pry open the door. It's dark when he leaves for work and he didn't notice all day, so we don't know if it happened at home, on his job site, or while he was at Home Depot today. Tomorrow he will have them search the security video at the job site and see if Home Depot will do the same. Thank goodness it is fully insured and will be fixed. It's just an irritating inconvenience and a sad commentary on the state of the world.

Things to be thankful for:

11. The truck wasn't damaged any more than it was and they didn't succeed in getting into it.

12. The 18 good years we had with our son before he left home.

13. Yesterday's tests seem to confirm the lump in our daughter's breast is a cyst.

14. Our daughter talked me into going to the mall yesterday afternoon and buying a Halloween costume for the little one. It's a unicorn. She loved it and came over to model it for me last night. So cute! I wasn't able to get a picture...you'll have to wait on that.

15. The boy liked the clothes I got for him. He is particularly fond of the dinosaur jammies with feet that look like dinosaur heads.

16. Your kind words about the change in blogging format.

I love you, O Lord, my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I call to the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and I am saved from my enemies. Ps. 18:1-3


  1. I enjoyed this post, except for the part about your son and the breach in your relationship with him. I will definitely keep him (and you and your hubby) in my prayers that at some point soon your relationship can be healed. Life is too short for these kinds of hurts to continue. Your son is missing out on a lot by not communicating and being with you. So I will be praying for all of you. God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above ALL we could ask or think. (Eph. 3:20) Also sorry to hear about the attempted break in of the truck. Glad they were unsuccessful, but it is still such a pain to have to go through all that. Love the pictures of the grand kids! What joy they must be!! And I do hope we can see pictures of the unicorn girl and the dinosaur boy! Such fun to have little ones to brighten your day. I really miss having that. Praise God for the cyst! That is good news! Love your new format that is more personal and from your heart. (((hugs))) God is able!!!! Don't give up!

  2. Keeping your family in prayer, Stacy. Thank you for the kind comments on my blog, smiles.

  3. So sorry about the relationship with your son. Praying that God will heal the rift in his time and way.

    You grandkids look so happy. It's so wonderful that you are able to have this time with them.

    Oh I would love to see the picture of the jammies, they sound like something my grandson would love. Looking forward to seeing the Halloween costume too.

    Have a great weekend.

  4. It must be so painful for you regarding your son. Prayers for a return of your relationship.

  5. I am so glad that your daughter's test confirmed a cyst and not anything worse! Praise God! It is sad that your son continues to be distant. Prayers lifted. Sorry someone damaged your hubby's truck but glad they were not successful in breaking in. I want some mac n cheese now! The littles are so cute!

  6. Love how you've chosen to focus on what's good in your life, Stacy. Unfortunately, Tom's situation with his son isn't that different. We can only pray they turn their lives around before it's too late. Regret is a bitter pill.

  7. I am so sorry about your relationship to your son. That must be terribly hard. My husband has 2 daughters from his first marriage and one of them, hasn't had any relationship with him for 20 years. She's just written him totally out of her life and that of her younger sister as well. All we can do is pray.

  8. I'm so sorry to hear about the relationship with your son. I know most families have similar things going on. My mom & brother havent spoken since April. From being someone 'in the middle' - I hate it. Family is such a complicated relationship.

    I cant wait to see pics of your little unicorn cutie!!!! Little Halloween costumes just makes me so happy.

  9. Hi Stacy, I am sorry about your relationship with yous son. Hopefully peace will be made in the future. Good to focus on the positive. Cute pictures of your grands. They lift our spirits for sure! I am glad your daughter is okay. I had the same thing a few years back. I have to get tested every year. I put a tribute picture to my aunt who is going through cancer now. Have a great weekend!

  10. Oh, Stacy, I'm so sorry about the estrangement with your son and his family. It's so heartbreaking that political views have destroyed your relationship. So much for agreeing to disagree, huh? I do pray that in the Lord's time, he restores y'all's relationship.


  11. Hi Stacy. I totally know how you feel as my oldest daughter hasn't had any contact with us for right around a year now. I sure don't know what I did. It is really heartbreaking and so hard for a parent to go through. I was very close to that daughter for a number of years and was even in the delivery room with her, at her request, when my oldest granddaughter was born. I feel like I lost a good friend and a daughter. I pray about it every day, but have given it to God for now. Sorry for the long comment, but you struck a chord. I am so glad that you are finding the positive even in daily challenges. That is so terrible about your husband's truck. I hope security cameras can shed some light on what happened. Hope you have a good weekend. I will be back to visit again soon.

  12. So sorry about your family situation, Stacy. And I don't know if it makes you feel better, but most all families have something like that. I have an issue with a sister, and as hard as it is, I had to let it go and just realize that I can love her but not have her a part of my daily life. It is just too toxic. Anyway, thanks for your honesty. Hugs.


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